51 Things which Other Grievers and I have Found Least Helpful
Increased sensitivity is inevitable especially in the early days of grief following the death of a loved one.
Grief by its nature is a social game changer for the bereaved friends and relatives.
Helping a loved one who is grieving can at times be very uncomfortable.
It can leave you not knowing what to say or how to act; even with the best intentions your words can still come out wrong – we get it!
However, there are certain phrases and things that we feel should be avoided.
We thought we would help you out and create 51 things you should not say, do or ask someone who is grieving (most especially those in the early stages of grief).
51 things you should not say, do or ask someone who is grieving
The key point to note is that, It’s not about you. It’s about the grieving person.
One major behaviour that we found common in those we considered to have least helpful is that they often try to project their discomfort to the grieving person and want them to behave and act in ways that are comfortable for them.
We also found that those who were said the least helpful were least supportive on the grief journey. Always remember words can uplift but also hurt others too.
It is important to remember the challenges that a griever may be facing and try not to make their experiences even more traumatic or overwhelming with your words or actions.
We understand it can be a very awkward experience for you as an outsider, but always think about what you say or how you act beforehand and question whether it will comfort the griever or leave them feeling worse off.