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Tribute Video: One year anniversary of Chidinma Olajide’s death

It's been a year since the death of my wife, ...

How Do I Accept the Reality of My Loved One’s Death?

Grieving the loss of a loved one is an active ...

Rollercoaster ride with people turned upside down. My Grieving Process: How Has Music Affected Me?

How Has Music Affected My Grieving Process?

There is something deeply emotional about music. We can experience ...

Infographics wheel of secondary losses of grief. How to identify and grieve secondary losses

Identifying & Grieving My Secondary Losses

There can be many secondary losses following the death of ...

A young nigerian born Tolulope Olajide sits in the rain with his eyes closed. The funeral I planned for my wife during Covid-19

The funeral I planned for my wife during Covid-19 Lockdown

Planning the funeral of my spouse in my experience has ...

two large yellow crafts - white water rafting on a beautiful sunny afternoon.

How Other Bereaved People Helped Me Process My Grief

One of the coping mechanisms that have proved highly beneficial ...

Close up portrait of young beautiful flight attendant holding life jacket in hands while demonstrating how using it. 5 Unhelpful Things To Say To Someone Grieving

5 Unhelpful Things To Say To Someone Grieving

Because we are working with a script of cliches, we ...

Five stages of the Kübler-Ross grief cycle (Kübler-Ross & Kessler, 2005). When mourning, Grieving, What Does Progress Look Like?

When Grieving, What Does Progress Look Like?

We have different ideas of what grieving or progress in ...

4 traits I noticed in those who comforted and supported me

In the aftermath of the death of a loved one, ...

image of the accident and emmergency unit at Bedford hospital. Is there a way for you to cope with fear and anxiety when they become real?

How Do You Cope With Fear and Anxiety When They Become Real?

Can the death of a loved one cause anxiety? What ...

Washing machine. I learned to cope with grief by fixing broken things - Balanced Wheel

How I learned to cope with grief by fixing broken things

I fell deeper into my grief each I heard that ...

Cropped image of a young main in his office writing on a pad with a pink fine liner pen. Tolulope Olajide. Dealing With Guilt & Grief: What Ifs and If Only

Dealing With Guilt & Grief: What Ifs and If Only

Retrospect can be harshly punishing. A major part of my ...

Business african american man wear on white shirt, tie and glasses at office, sitting on chair and holding mobile phone. In Grief, I Struggle With Guilt

My Struggle With Guilt in Grief:

Things I wished I did differently, more or better Dealing ...

African man stands to obverse horses grazing in the field. Grief and Loneliness: What is it like to feel lonely when grieving?

What Does Loneliness Feel Like When Grieving?

We face the feelings of loneliness at various stages of ...

Young African male walking away from the camera. He's walking in a heavy rain on a tarred path in a meadow. What has envy got to do with grieving?

Grieving A Loved One: Why do I envy other people?

What I want to share with you is a topic ...

Can One escape anxiety during the grieving process?

As a young widower, I couldn't escape from the pangs ...

how grief affects you physically? how grief affects you physically

My Experience of Grief and its Physical Expressions

How does grief express itself physically? how do we respond ...

monochrome picture of a sad and pensive black ethnic millennial sitting ona a bench in the rain. Acute Grief: What early response of grieving feel like?

Acute Grief: What early response of grieving feel like?

This post describes my early grieving reaction following the loss ...

night out picture of a young african couple Tolulope and Chidinma Olajide posing for a picture. When grieving, is it okay to question God?

Grief and Faith: Is It Wrong To Question God When Grieving?

One of the things I observed was that several people ...

A young millennial man walking through a meadow on a gravelled path

Widowed In Your 30s: My Strange Road To Widowhood

My wife had just passed away, and the hospital just ...

Tolulope Olajide with his eyes closed gets drenched by a heavy rain as he sits on a bench in the woodlands. Loss of Spouse; Being Widowed and Young

Loss of My Spouse: Taking Selfies with Angels

My story about becoming young and widowed is shared in ...